Adjusting to the empty nest syndrome

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lisa

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Has been easier than I thought. I thought I'd hate, hate, hate being at home alone. I rather enjoy it.

I miss my daughter a lot. I had to take her back to college today and that was hard. I miss her, she doesn't need me like she used to and that knowledge is hard.


I'm in a weird spot, I like my new found freedom but it still hurts to part from my daughter.
 
HAH! Know exactly what you mean. We sent our daughter off to college in 1986. Her mother was really lonesome without her and missed her greatly.

Come Thanksgiving, Lisa returned home and Mom and Dad were oh, so happy to have her home for the holiday. Lisa related her experiences and frustrations, fears and concerns, told of friends she had made and of this wonderful boy she met. We had a nice visit and at the end of the second day, lying in bed that evening, my bride and I confided in each other how much we realized our space had been invaded. Our new found freedom and world turned upside down. Our privacy..........gone. After day three and visiting her former high school friends, Lisa told of missing her new friends, college activities, etc.. Empty nest syndrome passed, we all got on the same page and realized one more page in the book of life had turned and a new chapter started.

Lisa graduated in 1991 within seven months she married the wonderful boy she met her first week of college. Lisa had a new man in her life who swore before man and God to care for and protecting her. Dad was happy for his little girl but knew another chapter in the book of life was beginning.
Four years pass and the first grandchild is born. One more page in the book of life is turned an a new chapter begins.

Next month, our daughter and her husband celebrate twenty years of marriage. And while they take a four day trip with their two sons, we take care of their dogs! One more page in the book of life, turned!

I wonder if the empty nest syndrome ever goes away..............
 
I'm looking forward to ENS myself ... 8 more months!

He's not around alot now though ... he's with friends or his girlfriend.

Besides ... if I get to feeling lonely ... I have my 2 awesome grandsons to spoil! :D
 
My son has muscular dystrophy. From the time he was 2 1/2 years old until he was 13, I had complete custody.

I guess I still do, but as the disease became worse I needed more help from the grandparents.

Eventually he needed a good hospital bed, and even a nightly nurse. You must have a consistent address for the caretakers, so that ended his all nighter's for me in 2009.


I still visit him at the grandparents 3 times a week. My wife knows that if I don't get to see him enough, that I am going to be a royal pain.


But I miss him at the house more than I ever can write. My boy isn't a victim, he loves life and his cheerfulness is the best.
 
Greg said:
My son has muscular dystrophy. From the time he was 2 1/2 years old until he was 13, I had complete custody.

I guess I still do, but as the disease became worse I needed more help from the grandparents.

Eventually he needed a good hospital bed, and even a nightly nurse. You must have a consistent address for the caretakers, so that ended his all nighter's for me in 2009.


I still visit him at the grandparents 3 times a week. My wife knows that if I don't get to see him enough, that I am going to be a royal pain.


But I miss him at the house more than I ever can write. My boy isn't a victim, he loves life and his cheerfulness is the best.
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My post makes me feel like an idiot Greg ... I really feel for you. Your son and you are both very blessed to be in each other's lives.
 
Peyton Shea said:
My post makes me feel like an idiot Greg ... I really feel for you. Your son and you are both very blessed to be in each other's lives.
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Please don't. Our cases are apples and oranges, if we flipped the scenarios I trust that you would have a similar POV.


Plus, I do believe in most cases (not absolute) most young adults are better served to move on at the first good opportunity.


And thank you, but I am sure you earned the next phase too, or the empty nest.
 
Greg said:
Please don't. Our cases are apples and oranges, if we flipped the scenarios I trust that you would have a similar POV.


Plus, I do believe in most cases (not absolute) most young adults are better served to move on at the first good opportunity.


And thank you, but I am sure you earned the next phase too, or the empty nest.
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Thank you for what you said ... you are right ... I would have the same POV as you do.

My oldest son left as soon as he graduated ... got a job/car/home and is doing very well. I'm just hoping my son that is still at home has the good sense his brother had at that time in his life. I think all young adults need to move on if there is something out there for them to move on to ... school/work/military ... life is too short to not take any opportunities that is offered to you and any that may present it'self to you at that age.

Thank you again Greg! You are a very kind man.
 
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