I can't take it anymore

D

Digger

Guest
So, I pay my parents $400/month in rent along with spending $200/month on my own groceries. I'm not allowed to eat anyone else's food in the house, just what I bought for myself. So now my parents are whining and *****ing because I didn't take 20 minutes out of my morning (when I had to be at work anyway because I'm the only one in the house with a job:rolleyes:) to do their dishes because I had 1 dish in there. They called me at work, like they always do, just to get me pissed off and in the wrong mood like they do every day, to tell me that I am supposed to do EVERYONE's dishes as an unmentioned precondition to living in their house (even though I pay rent and have to supply for myself).

Let me ask some of you older folks, are all parents this way? I mean, I'm getting tired of being expected to do ... well, everything. I'm the only person right now with a job, and yet I hae to do all the dishes, vaccum all the floors, keep the kitchen clean, take all the trash out (and we have more trash in a week than everyone else on our street combined) and clean the bathrooms in a house where 3 other people live and don't have jobs.

:mad: :mad: :mad:
 
What a sniveling little brat you are. Get your butt out of "their" house and find your own. If you want to be a grown up, act like one and take complete control of your life. Will you still be living in your parents home when you're 50?

You think you're independent, but you want your parents to continue to suplement your own income by allowing your to stay in their home. You know, you aren't unusual these days. More and more children are opting to live with their parents, and why? Because it's cheaper and they don't have to be responsible for everything. Get rid of that new car, buy a junker and use the extra money that you save to rent something on your own. :rolleyes:
 
I'm with Buckaroo on this one..........only I wouldn't call you a brat. I moved out when I was 18. I paid my own rent, utilities, car insurance, food, etc. But, I did the dishes when I felt like it. If don't want to clean up after other people, move out.
 
I did like Jen. I couldn't wait until I got out of high school so I could get the hell out from under my parents. And my parents were a lot better than most parents I knew. I just knew that it was time for me to go.
Now my sister stayed in their house all thru college and even a little after. Then when she did move out it was in a mobile home on their back 40. She's married now with 2 kids but she still lives within a mile of them. And she goes by every day.
I'm really glad she does as it takes a lot of pressure off of me with their advancing age and all. But I'm going to feel really guilty when they pass and their will is read. She gets nada, nothing, zilch. Me and her 2 girls get everything. Their reasoning is that she's gotten hers throughout the years.
But, yeah leave and make it on your own. Both you and they will benefit from the experience.
 
i haven't lived at my mom and dads since i was 16

get a life kid !!!!!!!
and get the hell out of your parents house
 
You guys need to lighten up on Andy.... b/c remember his living at home DRAMATICALLY reduces the chances that there will be an Andy JR anytime soon!

Andy, just remember, chicks DIG guys who live with their parents!

:cheers:
 
buckaroo said:
What a sniveling little brat you are. Get your butt out of "their" house and find your own. If you want to be a grown up, act like one and take complete control of your life. Will you still be living in your parents home when you're 50?

You think you're independent, but you want your parents to continue to suplement your own income by allowing your to stay in their home. You know, you aren't unusual these days. More and more children are opting to live with their parents, and why? Because it's cheaper and they don't have to be responsible for everything. Get rid of that new car, buy a junker and use the extra money that you save to rent something on your own. :rolleyes:
Click to expand...

VAJen said:
I'm with Buckaroo on this one..........only I wouldn't call you a brat. I moved out when I was 18. I paid my own rent, utilities, car insurance, food, etc. But, I did the dishes when I felt like it. If don't want to clean up after other people, move out.
Click to expand...

I suppose you guys are right. I just feel like I'm supporting my entire family on my own at this point. Nobody else wants to do anything to help themselves.

:deepbreath: I guess it's just a sad statement about our economy at this point.
 
Judging by the picture of your new car and the houses in the background, it looks like you are doing pretty good in supporting yourself in three other people...

What do you do for a living?
 
fergy1370 said:
Judging by the picture of your new car and the houses in the background, it looks like you are doing pretty good in supporting yourself in three other people...

What do you do for a living?
Click to expand...
If you must know, I work in computers.
 
fergy1370 said:
Judging by the picture of your new car and the houses in the background, it looks like you are doing pretty good in supporting yourself in three other people...

What do you do for a living?
Click to expand...
He works in the press box at MIR and is a tech consultant for a JC as far as he's told me.
 
When I lived at home, I gave 1/2 of my paycheck + $40 to my dad. At that time I was working 1 full time job and 1 part time job. He worked, too, though. And........when I moved out, he gave me back all the $$$ that I had given him while I was living there.
 
Your situation isn't all that uncommon. It's normal to feel that way, but you shouldn't let it get the best of you. Your relationship with your family seems like it's at the point where you should move out so you can find time to spend with your family. That seems a bit backwards, but I've been there. I was taking on a lot of responsibilities when I lived with my mom, and it was causing a lot of disagreements, both with me and her, and with her and my dad. When I moved from there, things got a lot better between us, and I'm thankful for that last couple of years, because I would probably have never forgiven myself had my mom died with things sour between us. And I moved out on my own a few months later, and it's been great between me and dad as well.
 
fury said:
Your situation isn't all that uncommon. It's normal to feel that way, but you shouldn't let it get the best of you. Your relationship with your family seems like it's at the point where you should move out so you can find time to spend with your family. That seems a bit backwards, but I've been there. I was taking on a lot of responsibilities when I lived with my mom, and it was causing a lot of disagreements, both with me and her, and with her and my dad. When I moved from there, things got a lot better between us, and I'm thankful for that last couple of years, because I would probably have never forgiven myself had my mom died with things sour between us. And I moved out on my own a few months later, and it's been great between me and dad as well.
Click to expand...

You learned a lesson the hard way, but it's a valuable lesson. What Andy needs to learn is that while living in his parents home, he will never be the custodian of the home, unless his parents are invalid. Sounds like he has a sibling also living there, and that too can cause problems. The point is, when a child grows into adulthood, they feel as though they are in control of what they do and where they do it. It's all part of growing up and we all have been there, or most of us anyway. I was listening to a talk show the other day that had the author of a book on this very subject but mostly about kids getting out of college and being on their own for the first time. There is a real shock to the system at first and if they put off taking full control, they will find that the tension between themselves and that of their parents only gets tighter.

I experience something like that a long time ago. I was well into my 30's and the place I worked had a major strike. This strike looked to last for a while and strike pay from the union just wasn't doing it for me. I was married with a child and even though the wife worked, my cut in pay to $65 a week just wasn't sufficient. My father offered me help if I would come work for him, 900 miles away. I moved in with them for six weeks (the strike lasted six months) and was ready to move out after two weeks. I have always gotten along great with my parents, and still do, but those six weeks put a real strain on our relationship. I will always be thankful to them for what they did for me and my family, but I hope I will never have to do that again.
 
AndyMarquisLIVE said:
:bsflag:

You can't do that in Maryland.
Click to expand...


i don't live in maryland
thank god for tennessee !

as for the BS flag you might want to grow up not everyone lives with their parents, I love my parents more than life it's self but in in 1969 i was your typical long hair, doin all the things my folks didn't like or approve of, my dad said if i lived under his roof it was his rules, so i left i was the best thing i could have done. i got a job at a local gas station and lived with a buddy and his wife, finished school then got a real job. i truly think it was the best thing i have ever done.
 
were going to nashville for a wedding this weekend,

you will probly pass through our fair town on your way, we live in beautiful Cosby
 
It sounds like you really need to move on with your life. Your parents don't owe you a thing once you are an adult. They don't owe you a place to live or anything else that they give you that you are so unhappy about. Paying rent to someone is significantly less involved than being a homeowner is. I really hope you can get out and grow up some before you do irrepairable damage to your relationship with your parents. I'm not saying that it will be easy, but you need to do it for everyone's sake from the sounds of it.

My brother-in-law's dad gave him $50 and a road map on his 18th birthday. They ended up with a great relationship, but it took them several years to get there.
 
I agree Andy move out on your own. Something tells me you aren't telling us everything.
 
Just think if you were living somewhere on your own, or even with a roommate you could enjoy this...

rradez-coed.1.jpg


301145258-c.jpg

:D
 
bp, don't you show that pic to my wife. She whoop the crap outta me if she saw me with all those girls. :beerbang:
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom