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I don't want to go in to a lot of detail because I don't know much myself.
What I do know is somewhere between 830pm on the 20th and 815am on the 21st my mom fell very I'll. I got a call from my brother around 330pm yesterday (21) and told me she was in CCU she's not doing well at all. Hope to know what's wrong really soon. But the way it sound will still be 14 hours before we know.
Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. That she will pull through and everything.


We also found out this week that my g/f's granddad has cancer.
 
Your mom and your family are in my prayers and thoughts. God Bless
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hang in there lappy.keep your head up.thoughts and prayers headed your way.
 
Thank you to everyone for the thoughts and prayers. But sadly my mom passed away. I was sometime after mid-night. But i just wanted to send a huge thank you to everyone for the thoughts and prayers. It means alot.

Nick Alexander
 
So sorry to hear this news Lappy. I just saw this post as I type this. Hang in there buddy. I will send prayers and thoughts of strength your way..........
 
I am so sorry for your loss. I wil be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
 
I'm so sorry , Nick. My thoughts and prayers for you and the family. May your mom live forever in your heart.
 
Thanks everyone. I'm at a loss or words. I know she is in a better place, and no longer in pain. Just wish it was easyer to deal with.

Yesterday i left the hospital for a little while and i got her a little brown bear. I layed it on the bed with her. and at some point someone tucked it in beside her head. and thats where it stayed tell she passed. I brung it home and it "slept" beside my head lastnight. Im going to lay it beside her again.

I'll have to do this later...i'm tearing up again....

Thanks everyone for everything.
 
We're with you, Nick.

You might consider keeping the little bear as a beloved reminder of your mom. Every time you see it, you'll think of your mom ---- and as long as you think of her, she will be with you.
 
TexasRaceLady said:
We're with you, Nick.

You might consider keeping the little bear as a beloved reminder of your mom. Every time you see it, you'll think of your mom ---- and as long as you think of her, she will be with you.
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I'v thought about that. I just do not know what to do. My older brother has been doing most of the "work" but i just don't know. I have printed some photos i will put in there, along with a letter. I know it wont matter, because she is with the Lord and its just her body there, but i guess it just helps you close knowing that part of you is there with "her".

I could not speek while we was looking at the caskets, but the one i liked the most was the one my brother picked out.

Right now im dealing with a lot inside. I wish i took the effort to see her more, call her more, see if she wanted to go the races more, just everything. I saw her last on monday. I bought her a book and gave it to her. It was the day before my birthday. and that was the last time i seen or talked to her.

Iv been thinking of some funny thoughts and storys of her and it helps, but the hole is still there. Iv lost great grandmas, an aunt, and orther family that was not so close. This is the hardest thing i have had to go through.
 
(((((Nick)))) I'm literally crying reading this. I can really say I know how you feel. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard to know what to do at times, but just do what's in your heart. I still have regrets from time to time that I didn't spend more time with my mom. "Why didn't I go over that day or at least call? I said I was, but I had a headache." That kind of stuff comes to me all the time, but I know I did the best I could and I'm sure your mom knows and holds nothing against you and just wishes she could take your pain from you. It's a lot easier saying this to someone than feeling it yourself, but some days you'll have peace about it and once in a while you won't as time goes on. I know my parents are in a better place too (esp with how my dad ended up being,) but it doesn't take the hurt away from those left behind.

You and your family are in my heart and have my thoughts and prayers. It really breaks my heart for you and your family. Lean on one another for strength and in all the sadness and loss, good memories will pop in here and there and make you smile.
 
Lap3Forever said:
Right now im dealing with a lot inside. I wish i took the effort to see her more, call her more, see if she wanted to go the races more, just everything. I saw her last on monday. I bought her a book and gave it to her. It was the day before my birthday. and that was the last time i seen or talked to her.

Iv been thinking of some funny thoughts and storys of her and it helps, but the hole is still there. Iv lost great grandmas, an aunt, and orther family that was not so close. This is the hardest thing i have had to go through.
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Nick, I went through the same thoughts when I lost my mom, and again when I lost my dad. Those of us who've lost parents have had the same exact thoughts and feelings that you are having.

The one thing I can tell you --- you never really lose the hurt, but it does get easier to live with.
 
Nick, I was about the same age as you when I lost my mom. It was July 4, 1975 when she passed and though it's been 38 years since then, I still think of her daily. What is important is the love that was shared between the two of you. That will never ever change.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, Nick. (((((HUGS))))) Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you......
 
thoughts and prayers from La. buddy. May GOD be with you and your family.
 
Lap3Forever said:
This is the hardest thing i have had to go through.
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I don't know if this helps or not, but I've been through the loss of both of my parents a few years apart and it was the worst thing I've ever been through. I can only imagine a few things that may be worse, those being losing a child or spouse. God will give you the strength to get through it. Keep the faith.
 
Nick really sorry to hear about your mom, i lost my dad when i was just 25 , so i know what it is like. I too had a lot of the same feelings you have, mostly anger that he was gone, that i couldn't do the things i loved to do with him anymore. The way i got over it, and it took quite awhile, was to go to places or do things that we liked to do together. I did that with my friends or my girlfriend , always made me smile and made me remember all the happy times.
 
i am so sorry nick to hear about your loss.you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.she may not be here physically but she lives on in your thoughts and dreams.hang in there buddy.
 
Nick I am sorry to hear about your Mom. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
My mother died in the wee hours of the morning after my 20th birthday in 2005. I can relate to what you're feeling now; the irrational regrets of not spending more time with her, or not telling her this or not giving her that... You should know that none of those things matter; there would always have been things you didn't do, should've done, would've done, could've done, no matter how long you had or how much you prepared for this day. Focus on what you did get to do with her. You'll realize how precious those moments are to you now, and that's how precious they are to her. Dearly cherish that short time that you got to be with her before she died. That is a gift that not everyone gets.

You can go on with your life knowing and remembering the time you did spend with her, and go on getting all sorts of new life experiences that you will be able to share with her when your time comes. She is watching over you now, and knows how much you love and miss her, and that is what counts. Not the things you didn't get around to, but the things you've done together.
 
fury said:
My mother died in the wee hours of the morning after my 20th birthday in 2005. I can relate to what you're feeling now; the irrational regrets of not spending more time with her, or not telling her this or not giving her that... You should know that none of those things matter; there would always have been things you didn't do, should've done, would've done, could've done, no matter how long you had or how much you prepared for this day. Focus on what you did get to do with her. You'll realize how precious those moments are to you now, and that's how precious they are to her. Dearly cherish that short time that you got to be with her before she died. That is a gift that not everyone gets.

You can go on with your life knowing and remembering the time you did spend with her, and go on getting all sorts of new life experiences that you will be able to share with her when your time comes. She is watching over you now, and knows how much you love and miss her, and that is what counts. Not the things you didn't get around to, but the things you've done together.
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Awesome advice Fury. That is something good for, not only Nick but, all of us to remember. There are always things you could have done differently, but focusing on the things you regret doesn't change them it just prevents you from enjoying the good times. Dwelling on those things can also keep you from making the right choices in the future.
 
We cleaned her trailler out some today. It was hard but i did not cry or anything. I found the book i gave her the last time i seen her at the house and that was Monday, Aug 18th. I got a few orther things. Just hard to let go.

Thanksf or the advice fury and everyone else. :)
 
It's been 6 mo. since I lost my mom and 2 mo. since I lost my dad. Life just seems so strange. I go into their house, which we're supposed to be cleaning out, and my brothers and I haven't done all that much considering what needs to be done. I start and get over-whelmed and then touching their things - well, it almost seems like it's more emotional. I think we're dragging our feet since it's hard to think of anyone else living there. It's been the family home since before I was born. I don't think we'll ever stop missing them, we'll just learn to deal with it a bit better I guess. Hang in there, buddy.
 
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