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~~~ Subject: Through a Rapist's Eyes ~~~
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed
on what they look for in a potential victim, and here are some
interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail,
bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are
also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short
hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them
carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching
through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because
they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a
woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't
have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
umbrellas (or other similar objects that can be used from a distance) in
their hands. Keys are not a deterrent! because you have to get really
close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms were taught: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage, or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look him in the face and ask him a question, like,
"What time is it?", or make general small talk, like "I can't believe it is so
cold out here,we're in for a bad winter." Now that you've seen his face
and could identify him in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in
front of you and yell" Stop" or "Stay back!" Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking
for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it andcarries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling
" I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY" and holding it out! will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat him with strength but
you can by outsmarting him. If you are grabbed around the waist
from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the
elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman
in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on
a guy who was trying to date rape her, and was so upset she broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands, and the guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it is extremely painful You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two
fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without
using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be
aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can
and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your
instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if the guy really was trouble.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed
on what they look for in a potential victim, and here are some
interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail,
bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are
also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short
hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them
carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching
through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because
they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a
woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't
have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
umbrellas (or other similar objects that can be used from a distance) in
their hands. Keys are not a deterrent! because you have to get really
close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms were taught: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage, or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look him in the face and ask him a question, like,
"What time is it?", or make general small talk, like "I can't believe it is so
cold out here,we're in for a bad winter." Now that you've seen his face
and could identify him in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in
front of you and yell" Stop" or "Stay back!" Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking
for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it andcarries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling
" I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY" and holding it out! will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat him with strength but
you can by outsmarting him. If you are grabbed around the waist
from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the
elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman
in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on
a guy who was trying to date rape her, and was so upset she broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands, and the guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it is extremely painful You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two
fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without
using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be
aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can
and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your
instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if the guy really was trouble.
