To all Those Guys out There

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AngelPoet8

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I have a question for all those guys out there? Not to be mean but I just want to know because I am having trouble with this one guy. I try to be nice as a friend and do things for him but he does not appricaite at all. I don't think he ever appricaited me and all that I did for him. Now I have moved to go to college and nothing is like before eveything has changed. He does not treat me the same. We always get in fights on internet. Nothing is the same. I don't even know why he is doing these things to me. It is like he said that now we are friends...what happened to use being best friends? Now I am maturing into a young women and I can see clearly but was once blinded by my love. I can see what he is doing to me and my life. I am like, Does he likeing to hurt me?
THIS IS MY QUESTION: Why do some guys act like this? They are your best friends and they stab you in the back so many times over the last 2 years. And you been through evrything with him but he gives you no credit.

This is just a question to the guys...and I don't want to be mean...but this stuff has been bothering me since I cam to college. THanks

Krystle
 
Dump him,and find a better pasture.He is playing on your emotions,and winning as long as you let him.And this is comming from a guy who did this to girls.I am sad to admit that,but it's the truth.I hope you take this advice,and run with it. :)
 
Go with pb on this one.......that pond is huge out there!! Much better fish in it than the one you are playing with.:)
 
Originally posted by AngelPoet8
that is it...he is a friend....nothing else

Krystle
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Good luck my friend,I have got to check out the eyelids from the inside.:)
 
Originally posted by AngelPoet8
Anybody else have any comments

Krystle
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I do.......but you only want male opinions..and i am female.............sorry:)
 
Coming from a girl who has had similar problems all I can say is drop him. My brother acts like a complete jerk with his soon to be ex-wife. Acting like she is his servant and never thanks her or appreciates her plus some other things that are way beyond forgiving. She is a great person and doesn't deserve that, nobody does. She realizes that and is leaving him because she knows that not everyone is like him.
Guys can act like jerks for many reasons. Ask him if you have the guts otherwise just let him go, he isn't a good friend if he treats you like that. I got rid of a guy friend who acted like I should worship the ground he walked on and didn't appreciate my friendship and I am much happier.
 
:D He sounds like a self-centered jerk. Send him a Dear John email and move on. Would be the best thing for you to do.
 
Question for you? You say you are just "friends" Did he ever try to make it more than that? Is it possible that he may have misinterpeted some of your actions for something more? If he wanted to be more than friends and you moved he may be upset cause nothing more came of it. Some guys have trouble with being just friends. They want/ need to be in a relationship. it's tought to say since I don't know him/you. If you think that is the case though you may have to cut ties with him for him to understand. Maybe this helps, maybe not. Best of luck though.
 
I tried to make more of our realationship but he did not want it that way. That was a long time ago. After that we were just friends. I just hope he GETS THE MESSAGE. THat I am UPSET with him. And maybe he will read some of this stuff and realize what is happening.

Krystle
 
Then it sounds to me like he realizes he screwed up or just plain misses you. Niether is an excuse for his behavior. The only thing you can do is tell him how you feel, if it doesn't get any better than let things cool off for a bit. If he doesn't realize the err of his ways after not getting to talk to you for awhile than there probably isn't hope. At that point I think I would cut and run. Life is too short to be miserable 'cause of other people. Sounds like you care about him quite a bit so that makes it all the more difficult. Hope things work out for ya.

T
 
Angel, from a female perspective, most guys just don't know how to be "just friends". I suggest just backing off for a while, like save but don't answer his emails. Real friends don't try to hurt you.

PURRRRRRRRRRRRRR and good luck!
 
Originally posted by kat2220
Angel, from a female perspective, most guys just don't know how to be "just friends". I suggest just backing off for a while, like save but don't answer his emails. Real friends don't try to hurt you.

PURRRRRRRRRRRRRR and good luck!
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Hey now Kat....I don't know if I would group it as "most" guys :) There are lot of us who are all around good friends. There are those who don't know how to be just "friends" but I wouldn't say it's most guys by any stretch.
 
Originally posted by mlitefan01
Hey now Kat....I don't know if I would group it as "most" guys :)  There are lot of us who are all around good friends.  There are those who don't know how to be just "friends"  but I wouldn't say it's most guys by any stretch.
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You are right mlite, I should have said "lots of guys" instead of most. Most of my real friends are guys, including hubby:D AND I apologize.

BUT, I still think backing off from this guy for now would be a good idea.

PURRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
 
No prob Kat. I agree with you on the not answering this guys emails. It should be a wake up call for him...you don't know what you got until it's gone
 
Angel, I have to agree with Kat. There are a lot of guys out there that say "I just want to be friends" but they really don't know what "just friends" truly means. If I were in your situation now, and I have been there before, I would be straight and up front with him. Tell him that if he continues to treat you the way he has been, and can't appreciate the things that you have done for him, then you can no longer continue the "friendship" and continue to be treated that way. Also, let him know that his actions are hurting you and he needs to change them or adios muchacho. There are plenty of people on this great earth of ours for you to let one person keep your stomach in knots over "friendship". If telling him this hurts his feelings, then so be it. He doesn't need to continue to hurt yours.
 
Originally posted by mlitefan01
No prob Kat.  I agree with you on the not answering this guys emails.  It should be a wake up call for him...you don't know what you got until it's gone
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Voice of experience???

Believe it or not, I am still friends with my EX 14 years after the divorce! We were married 22+ years and he cheated a lot. Father of my children, and will always be my friend.

PURRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
 
I guess you could say I'm speaking from experience, but not in the same sense that Angel is dealing with. I was in fact a good friend to a young lady, she couldn't understand that everything I did for her was based on friendship. I never attempted to make anything more of it. We aren't as close as we used to be, but we still do lunch from time to time. I have no regrets on how things went.
 
Well mlite, may I now consider you a friend?

PURRRRRRRRR AND I'll even wish Rusty good luck! now that my Jeff has screwed up this year. I think I'll just go and open a miller lite right now!
 
Originally posted by kat2220
Well mlite, may I now consider you a friend?

PURRRRRRRRR  AND I'll even wish Rusty good luck! now that my Jeff has screwed up this year. I think I'll just go and open a miller lite right now!
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Kat, you may consider me a friend :) You can never have too many as far as I'm concerned. Can't beleive what happened with Jeff yesterday, that was way out of character for him as well as that team. (Hurt my fanasty team pretty bad too :( ) I'm kinda looking forward to the end of the season, or more appropriatley, the beginning of next so we can see what happens.
 
thanks everybody. Now it is time for me to ponder and make my own descion on this problem.

Krystle
 
Originally posted by AngelPoet8
thanks everybody. Now it is time for me to ponder and make my own descion on this problem.

Krystle
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GOOD choice Krystle, you sound like a mature young woman!

May I adopt you?? PURRRRRRRRRRRRR
 
Krystle

i dont understand why some guys are are like that. but some are and the best thing you can do is, tell him how you fell and it he dont treat you better, leave, send him a "John Deer" letter. or just walk up to him or the 1st thing you say to him is "Bye". dont let us guys get to you to mutch. some of us are good. some of us are assholes. so just do the best you can. and dont let it get you down. i hope this has helped a little but i bet i confused a lot of ppl with this.

Best Of Luck

Nick :)
 
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